Excuses And Solutions: Time For A Change

by Donesia Muhammad

How many times do these phrases go through your mind?

" I want to start my own business, but I don't have the money!"

" I don't know the first thing about getting started online"

" How am I supposed to do this by myself. This is too much work"

Would have , Should have, Could have...

Enough already. Once and for all no more excuses. Stop worrying about the lack of thousands of dollars. Stop worrying if your site isn't designed with the latest bells and whistles. So what if you don't have a merchant account yet? Do you know how much they charge you per month? Selling $20 ebooks does not warrant a merchant account !

STOP TRYING TO KEEP UP WITH THE INTERNET JONES'S

The successful marketer has put in a lot of work and time and effort to succeed, but they all started like you and I.

Struggling and barely making it like everyone else. I know that we are going through hard times, I know you are watching every penny that comes in. Guess what, the Internet isn't going anywhere. It's only going to get bigger and better. Like I said before, you can always get a loan for thousands of dollars and have someone set up your site for you but can you honestly say that you would get the same satisfaction as you would from learning everything from the ground up?

There are times when you see great deals from websites and ezines regarding products, advertising, and discounted services and you get frustrated that you don't have the money for those deals.

It's okay, if you never learn a thing online, learn this...There are always deals, there will always be discounts, that's what makes this whole Internet great. Okay?

But the real problem for aspiring entrepreneurs is not the lack of funds, but honestly the lack of faith.

FEAR OF SUCCESS

Yes, I said it. Fear of success. You can be afraid to fail and just as easily afraid to succeed. You worry that no one will visit your site, that no one will buy your product. Then you worry that people will love your product but then will start to hate it because of some unforeseeable problem, and you don't know how to handle the situation.

Are you someone who can't handle conflict? Would you rather back yourself into a corner than deal with a situation? This is when frustration hits and then you are overwhelmed with everything.

It is scary to raise a child correctly

It is scary to get married and lead a happy life

It is scary to start a new job with many responsibilities

It is scary to start your own business

Look inside yourself first and then you can show others what you are made of.

Now that I have one website online I have started on my second site. Am I scared. Of course, I am human but I am also determined. Whenever crazy thoughts fly through my head that's when I know that the "fear of success" factor is coming into place. I get panicky and think:

No one is going to go to my site

Everyone is coming up with the same idea as mine

What if someone accuses me of spam

What if some disgruntled customer bad mouths me all over the Net

Well what if walking down the street, aliens bring me back to their planet...

In other words, that's life...Things happen. You would be surprised how many things you have control over and how many things you have absolutely no control over.

Would you rather wait until you are too old to do anything about it, and I don't mean age.. I mean your mind is too old to have any desire to do anything new.

Let that fear go. There are a lot of things that we have no control of. But you can pick and choose your own battles in life.

There are more important things in life to worry over. Let's remove the emotional weight and clear our heads in order to succeed.

Maybe this doesn't apply to you but every now and then we all doubt ourselves and our ability, but you have to shake yourself out of it and get on with the business of life.

Do you want to know my real reason for starting my own business.

My daughters. They are only 5 and 6 years old, but if they can see from now that Mommy and Daddy have no fear of obtaining their goals in life, then when they are older they will realize that nothing is impossible, and for whatever life has planned for my daughters they will be able to handle the situation because they will have (hopefully) no Fear of Success.